I don't have SSH access, but my program does show the difference between a symbolic link and a physical directory (i checked it on another place where there was realy a symbolic link, it has a quick launch icon).
Now, I tried to remove my subdomain (which worked without problems), and then I tried to reinstall it again so I could make sure the template directory would be working.
Now, for some reason, after the installation (and manual creation of configuration.php in the slave site directory), I ALWAYS keep getting the installation wizard again. It's driving me crazy. I can just keep installing it, and it will always show me the code for the configuration.php file at the end. When I open the frontend or admin of the website, i get redirected to the installation directory.
Any suggestion ? I tried to reinstall with {site_dir}/templates in the template directory again, as this used to work, but it doesn't anymore